CHOICES: TO LOVE, OR NOT?

Heyyyy, fam❤. It’s that time of the week again when you get to hear from this space, but guess what? Today isn’t just a random one because it’s Valentine’s day! It is on that note that I wish you and yours a happy lovers’ day. Don’t say that greeting isn’t meant for you o, because you are right at the centre of the celebration😁.

If it’s your first time visiting or reading from this space, awwwwn, you’ve just won my heart. It feels good to have you here on a day like this, and I look forward to hearing from you as you check out the previous posts on the site. If you are returning, I’m sure you already know that I love you loads.

Let’s move on to the reason for today’s celebration and the focus of today’s post; LOVE❤. This is one powerful word that has never, and will never go out of its usage in our vocabulary. It’s also very famous, and we see this in the way everyone talks about it consciously or unconsciously, even on every other day apart from Valentine’s.

Thanks to the media space, many of us experience subtle tension every day. You already know what we say about the pressure, right?😁 I’m sure that today alone, you would have seen and heard a lot. You will just be on your own and in your space scrolling peacefully on your phone, and notifications, tweets, and stories come popping up in your face.

Before you knew it, you would have said “awwwwwwn” or “God, when?” like 20 times. There are even other interesting comments that people give when it comes to discussing love or at the sight of public displays of affection by couples. Of course, we love to see it! We love to see people enjoying healthy, God-given relationships.

Whether or not we admit it, whether or not we think these exclamations and responses are just cruise, the truth is that we all want to love and be loved. At the very least, I can answer for myself and 99 others. Oh, that’s 100% already! But for real, we all love love!

Love is that powerful force and cord that binds any group of people for progress, greatness, achievement, and any other thing that comes to your mind as you read this. It is the most powerful force in the world, no doubt! We see the impact of love in our everyday life. Without love, there cannot be genuine friendships and effective working relationships.

I would like you to cast your mind back to remember that friend that sometimes annoys the hell out of you, or gets on your nerves so badly, but remains in your corner. My dear, that’s love right there! As much as he or she annoys you, you choose to be blind to those faults based on the realization that he or she is a work in progress.

Rather than see their faults, you choose to see the good in them, remembering the times they stood up for you, the wonderful memories you have had together, and the beautiful bond you share. That is the place of love in our everyday life, in our dealings with family, friends, and all that falls in the category of significant to others, even to strangers.

As beautiful and popular as the concept of love is, it is yet widely misunderstood. There have been some negative perspectives about it, often shaped by people’s experiences and relationships with people. I should mention here that the “love” word is not just romance-centered, and for the sake of this post, we are discussing love in its entirety and diversity.

First, I’ll have you meet the originator of love, whose name is LOVE. You see, this widely-accepted concept came to being and can only be expressed as it should because we have an example in our Lover, the One who laid down His life for us. He is our perfect example, and He gladly shows us how to love as He does.

Another agreement we have to make is that love is the greatest of all virtues. In fact, everything we call virtues stems from the place of love. Are you kind? Are you a giver? Do you love seeing people happy? Are you always willing to see people become a better version of themselves? Do you go the extra mile to check up on your loved ones? Dear one, that’s love being expressed in all that you do.

Now, to choices! The beautiful thing I observed with these two, love and choice, is that they are joined at the hip. Oh, they are definitely inseparable! You know you really cannot get tired of these flashback moments, right? Alright then, try to bring back to life the memory of the last wedding ceremony you attended. Do you remember those two beautiful souls standing before God and men at the altar, exchanging those words of commitment we call vows?

Getting to that point is a journey on its own, a journey of choosing each other above all others that were around them, and it does not end there just because they have exchanged vows and are now married. For a fact, that is when the journey begins.

If those two will be together forever as it was written on their souvenirs and wedding program and prayed over them by the clergy and the congregation, it is going to be a function of making that commitment over and over again, 24 hours a day, 7 days in a week, and 52 weeks in a year. It has to become a lifestyle, choosing each other over and over again, irrespective of the flaws, arguments, and quarrels.

What point am I trying to make? Love is an everyday decision and not just an emotion of convenience. Just like I wrote you last week, love shows in the little things you do to make life better for the people around you. If we can all put the love we profess into action, the world will be a much better place to live in.

As we celebrate Valentine’s today, remember that love is to be expressed every single day and not just on special occasions. Whether you are in a romantic relationship or not, there are people that deserve all the love that you have to give. You have a family that has trained you to be the person that you are today, and you have friends that have been there for you through thick and thin.

Be happy to celebrate them and let them know you are grateful to have them. The “wessering pressure” can keep mounting, but you can stay above it. Don’t give in to the pressure, dear, stay happy!

I wish you a wonderful celebration, and I pray that you get to receive the beautiful love that you deserve today and always. I love you❤. ️