My dearest member of the TMAR tribe, I say a big ‘Welcome to September’ to you! Wow, what a year 2025 has been! Through the different experiences, we have grown to be people who are renewed in thinking and better equipped for what we have been called to do and who we are called to be. I admire your strength and courage at going for gold, here’s to your win through it all!💫
Can I ever get tired of appreciating your commitment to this work? Absolutely not! You are a true support system, and I am always grateful you are in my space. Thank you for walking through all the posts with me, sharing the links, and sending in your thoughts.
I am particularly excited about the impact the last two posts made. I’m happy I got to enlighten you on the things you might not be very familiar with as touching your health, or remind you of the terms you might have come across in the past. I promise that soon, we’ll revisit the health series. Let’s look forward to it together!
Today, we’re looking into a special subject matter tagged ‘The Gift of Men’. This topic is not strange to us at all. In fact, we would often mention it while uttering words of prayer or writing notes of acknowledgements and goodwill messages. But really, what does this title actually point to? What exactly comes to your mind when talking about the gift of men, and how can you be a beneficiary? These are the highlights we want to unpack in this post. Are you ready?
I’d like to begin by pointing your attention to a familiar story in the Bible which is usually referred to when addressing the subject or love and marriage; the story of Adam in the Garden of Eden as detailed in Genesis 2:18. We see Adam being by himself and the intervention of the providential God who already knows our needs even before we realize we need it or even make a move to ask Him.
It was God Himself who saw that being alone wasn’t good, and He decided that He was going to make a helper or companion for Adam. This is to tell us that Community and Companionship are God’s idea. Also, while this scripture is often spoken of in line with marriage, I think it also passes a strong message about the importance of having people around you; a strong community that fosters support and a sense of belonging.
This conversation is going to tend more in the direction of friendships and solid associations. The importance of being a part of a strong circle that holds your hands, who are there for you on days of happiness and low spirits, and who are constantly in your space to cheer you on can never be overemphasized. It is such a joy to know that there is at least that one person who is your person; that person or those people you know who’ve got you after God, who would always rise to the occasion when you need them to, or when you didn’t even ask. What a gift indeed!
Last month, one of the services we had in my Church last month was a very emotional one, one that opens your heart to see how much love dwells in the family of God that you belong to and desire to plug in to it, play your part, and not be a stranger in your Father’s house. Imagine hearing testimonies of people who have received genuine help from fellow believers when they were at their lowest moments.
This is always a beautiful experience to hear about, and it shouldn’t be strange to us. This is the design that God had in mind when He created us all, that we would be children who would love one another beyond words but go further to express it through our actions in and out of season.
I have a few more paragraphs for you that talk about some things to note on our subject for the day, in addition to those things you may already have in mind. Let’s read through them together!
Have you ever thought about the fact that having the gift of men or beautiful friendships is first a gift from God? I mentioned earlier that community is God’s idea and design; this implies that He can orchestrate meetings and conversations that would be the beginning of a lasting friendship. Through some conversations, timely needs have been met, and questions have been answered. Would we refer to that as just coincidental? Of course not, God is always in the details!
As a prayer-answering Father, we receive His intervention through the people He has placed in our lives. The fact that you have these people in your space should always stir you to be thankful to God. It should also lead you a step further, ensuring to remember your friends in your prayers and making positive declarations over them. Those words you say over them are not just words, they’re one of the ways you stand in the gap as a covering for them.
Do you remember Job in the Bible? One of the remarkable things He constantly did for his family was mentioned in Job 1:4-5. He would often send for his children to sanctify them and offer sacrifices according to their number, as a way of atoning and ensuring continued preservation. He was such a strong covering of a Father! While we stand in the gap in prayers for our family members, let us not leave other people we refer to as God’s gifts to us- Our friends. Whether they are aware of it or not, don’t stop praying for them.
If you will receive and enjoy the gift of men, you first have to be a gift yourself and be friendly indeed. Proverbs 18:24 If you have ever seen or belonged to a strong circle of friendship, then you will agree with me that the relationship didn’t just automatically arrive at 100. It took the intentionality and commitment of both parties (or more if there are) to see that what you all share works before you could have the beautiful thing you have going today.
One conversation led to another, strong convictions were built, aligned values were seen, and you just knew that this friendship or relationship had come to stay. All that didn’t happen in one day, or probably it did😁. But what I’m trying to say is that you both (all) were involved and willing to get on the journey before you arrived at what you have today.
Therefore, be more open and intentional about your friendships. Be intentional about showing interest in people’s growth. As they share their journey with you or talk to you about their struggles, lend a helping hand in any way you can. Be genuinely interested in what goes on in your friends’ lives; the friendship isn’t just for you to benefit from. Celebrate their wins with them, be a present friend! Be a gift that keeps giving.
Also, cultivate the culture of appreciating your friends often. As much as you send them notes of gratitude in private, don’t hesitate to celebrate them in the open as well. This isn’t just about what they’ve done or what they’ve not done, it’s first about who they are to you- your special gifts from God. Celebrate the One who gave them to you, and celebrate the people He gave you as well. Don’t take them for granted.
Always remember to sow seeds of kindness wherever you go. It may interest you to know that you haven’t just been sent to your family members or those in your immediate friendship circle alone. You also have a role to play in the lives of other people. Your casual words of encouragement, smiles, hugs, offering to help, cheer to wins, meeting an immediate need, and the like might just be the answer to a wish or a prayer someone had made. Let people feel seen and loved. This is also what the gift of men talks about.
There might currently be some unhealthy mindsets that have found their roots in your space, probably due to an experience you had with someone or the kind of environment you grew up in. However, I implore you today to do away with the mindset that promotes selfishness. Let go of the opinion that people only care about themselves and not about others.
You might currently be hurt, or there might be a wound or scar that has been left behind as a result of some experiences you’ve gone through. Let this be a soothing balm, and start to internalize it; there are people in your space who are there to stay and have been sent to bring healing. Open your heart to receive the love they’ve come with. Let your mind be renewed about your perspective on friendship and people in general. When you do, you will clearly see the people in your space and how much they care.
There is however something else that I should point your attention to. Even though some friendships might not have stood firm till today or remained as strong as when you started, remember that they are or were also gifts to you at a particular period. There are some key moments in your life that when you refer to, there is no way you won’t attribute your journey through such moments to how those people were there for you.
Though the bond might not be as tight anymore, be grateful you met these people as well, and release words of blessings over them. If possible, take a step further to check on them. And when their names come up in conversations, you don’t have to paint them as a villain just because they’re not so much in your corner anymore. Be grateful to have met them, and speak about them with grace. Also, celebrate and congratulate them genuinely on their wins, and contribute in any way you can.
If you admire the working friendships you see around, make yours work too by paying special attention to the people around you. It isn’t always about making new friends or meeting someone new, start with your immediate environment. Whose need have you met today, or who have you helped in your little way?
Someone’s name flashed across your mind today, and there was an instinct to call or send a message to him or her. Hey, have you done that? Well, that is just one of the ways being a gift as a person plays out. That simple gesture of calling or texting might just have been the little miracle that the person needed for today. Again, I say to you, instead of searching for what you already have, nurture it and watch it blossom into something beautiful.
It seems this is where I’ll cap my pen for today☺️. However, I hope that you will work actively on first being a gift this week. Let love flow out of your bank, don’t worry, it’s going to be replenished with much more❤️. As the gift that you are to me in TMAR, I would love to read your thoughts on this topic, kindly send them in by leaving a comment. Also, remember to share the link with your friends so we all can learn to be better people. Have a beautiful month, enjoy the rest of your week!💫
